Third Uncle have assigned each and every of us to accompany our parent.... all will need assistant to be by their side. Ritual start again at around 12+pm .... most friends and relatives came to walk the last journey with Grandma.
Papa came a bit late so Dearie is being assigned to act behalf for Papa in giving the last respect and offerings.
Most just burst into tears when the ritual start ..... all of us so 舍不得 we really 舍不得!!! Weather today is cooling ..... Grandma give us blessing too ... not to let us all walk on hot ground.
Grandma will be cremated at Mandai Crematorium & Columbarium ..... we catered 3 buses for people whom came sending Grandma. At the viewing hall most of us can't take it ..... some just let go ... and Small Aunt fainted .... really unbearable ... especially at the moment the coffin is auto moving in .... that is the most sad moment everyone have to face!
All other friends and distant relatives went back to Bishan and the rest of the immediate family we went over to 三清宫 located at Bedok South as Grandma's ashes will be place there. A small ritual is conducted there and after that we all headed back to Bishan to wrap up everything before heading back home to rest. Tomorrow morning we will be meeting up to collect the ashes .....
Today is the last day of the wake ... Dearie & I were on duty yesterday so we only went back home at 6am to catch some sleep as tonight will be a long night + we are not going home tonight.
We went back around 1+pm ... and Small Aunt cook nice noodle for us .... when we reached there .... there are lotsa ppl there already.
At around 6+ 7pm .... the ritual ceremony start .... it takes about 4 or 5 rounds and each interval is around 10mins only. My Parents and Uncle came .... when during break time I manage to get some rest at their table. Cos is a total FULL HOUSE tonight ..... and there is no more table and chair left!
During the ritual most of us couldn't take control and burst out crying ..... our beloved Grandma have left us. Almost all break down including myself ...... my dear dottie still tell me "mummy, dun cry" and wipe off my tears!
The whole ceremony ended around 10+pm to 11+pm ..... including of burning the big house everyone is sad+tired+hungry. After the ceremony we help to take down all the blankets ... there are total about 100+blankets and all of us help to untag all the names on the blanket fold up ..... and those who want the blanket just take the rest will be donated out. According to all Cousins 100+ blankets is consider little ... last time when Grandpa passed away the whole of the Langsat Road is hanging all the blankets which is around 300+!!! WOW!!!
After all the packing up .... we take turn to go back bathe .... we are back to Bishan at around 2+am ... thanks to Woo Heng whom bought us some supper and we started to chit chat to keep all of us awake!
3rd day of the wake Dearie & I came a bit later than usual ... cos we are very tired ..... lucky TT not with us or else we will be disturb by her.
My Dad came with my 姑姑 & 姑丈 and my dear dottie really know how to "Carrot" her grandpa .... she asked my Father to bring her to 7-11 to buy ice cream!!! *LOL* she choose a kit kat drumstick .... really know how to eat!
Today also quite alot of ppl coming in to pay respect to Grandma ... all of us help out in serving food, drinks and also to sit around with our own friends. Lucky our family is big so we have lotsa helpers everyone 分工合做 things are done very quickly! Tomorrow will be the most busy and sad day to face......
2nd night of the wake is also a holiday therefore lotsa people came ....... starting from noon.
All of us tried our best not to be too sad cos we still need to oversee the people who came to the wake. As for me I still try my best to carry Nat finally I get to carry her!
More people came at around 7+pm .... my Parents came too. And thanks to Jasmine & Hubby and Jo for coming. It was raining very heavily .... which we feel that cos Ah Ma wants people to stay on therefore this rain is extremely heavy. Ah Ma love crowd!
And when Ah Ma passed on is our Great Grandfather's death anniversary and we think that she dun want Ah Ma to suffered any longer so he took her with him. And Dearie told us that he dreamt of Ah Ma passed on the day before but dare not say anything out.
Waited for the whole night finally Ah Keng (Davis's bro) brought Shi Shi back ..... cos we feel that we can't go fetch her else we will all cry together! The moment she step down from the car she walk towards Ah Ma mourning area and say out:"阿嬷, 按作你没等我回来!" (read using hokkien) all our tears started to roll down ..... she is really sad cos she is the closest to Ah Ma.
Small Uncle talk to her and she slowly become more calm..... all of us feel so sad seeing this scenario. We went back home to rest at around 2am my in law wanted to stay overnight but we scare they are too tired so my dear dottie is with them for the next few nights so that they can rest more at home. As for us we can be at ease when she is not around and would like to thanks to my BIL whom assigned their maid to look after my dottie for the next few days at Grandma's wake!
Woke up feeling uneasy ..... dunno why ... ..... wanted to pick up my red polo tee to wear in the end I put it back and choose to wear a black blouse..........
At around 3.51pm Pauline sms me asked me if I know anything I say I dunno and she replied: "Ah Ma..hospital called, ask them go dw now." I was shocked and back to my work station to msn any family member who are online. Manage to get hold of SIL - GLC and was talking about this with her.
And knowing all rushing down ..... by the time the hospital say Ah Ma (husband Granny) had passed on peacefully at 4.03pm. Not a single of us saw she leave .... only the caretaker(maid) is with Ah Ma when she leave.
Kean came picking me up and then Charmayne back to Bishan to wait for everything everyone of us are so sad and was crying. Our Beloved Grandma have passed on .... although I didn't spend alot of time with her but she is the most I respect! She was sick early this year after CNY she still remember my BD and gave me an Ang Bao! She really have a good memories .... she will NOT forget anyone else BD at all!
Tent-age is setting up and all of us are there waiting for the casket to send Ah Ma back ..... due to evening timing we can't put Ah Ma into the coffin everything have to wait till next morning. At around 7+pm casket have send back Ah Ma's body...... everyone is so sad .... and all of us are crying. This moment is the worst of all! Not only we are sad we are all worried of our little cousin - Shi Shi she is at China doing a exchange programme and will only be back tomorrow night. All of us tried not to put anything on FB scare that she know how to get on FB in China.
We have draw up duty roster so that we can take turns to look after the place in the night. And we all ask our 长老 (OC) to go home rest more only 1 OC will be on duty. As for Dearie & I we went back at around 12midnight and came back at 4am ... we just get to sleep......
Very tired after the weekend work ..... my eyes is really like auto closing somemore is a MONDAY BLUE! After work I went over to in law's shop for dinner while waiting for Dearie. Everytime he will be late ... wonder is it because I tell him I am going so he take his own sweet time.
On Tuesday morning I woke up at 6am!!! OMG this is really auto waking up .... weather is damn hot and we try not to use air-con so often cos of the electricity is damn high ... a 3 room flat and we are like paying 160+ per month and we are not at home in the day! Gotta endure and try to put up with this stupid weather!
Nothing much to update on Wednesday .... lucky I didnt wake up at 6am again ... is so difficult to wake up if trying to go sleep again and I find is more tiring if I sleep back. So today I try sleeping early to catch up my beauty sleep!
